Do you over use your mobile phone?

Are you over using your mobile phone and feeling under pressure?

Under pressure?

Are you still following your new year resolutions?

Was one of yours to manage over use of  your mobile phone to reduce interference at home?

Take today for instance, have you already found home-work communication tricky to balance?

I published some ways that can help. Have a look here:

4 ways to wisely balance work and home – avoid Smartphone overuse

Reach us at 07779 345 499, m.raymond@mwrconsulting.co.uk

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Marjorie Raymond

Marjorie Raymond

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We have experience in developing senior managers and their team members – both on an individual and team level – so they can develop practical approaches that encourage positive, constructive behaviour. This, in turn, leads to the development of positive beliefs and values. We are ready work with you, to help you get the best out of your people.

Here are some examples of approaches that can be used and tailored to your individual needs:

  • Certified ACT practitioner
  • Support if you are being bullied, or have a member of your organisation who has made a bullying complaint
  • Certified Mediation practioner, to address workplace conflict,
  • Personal development activities
  • Individual and group coaching…Coaching – a powerful way of developing people
  • Psychometric assessment, which can identify strengths as well as derailing behaviours and also include 360 degree feedback
  • Structured module for understanding the psychological contracts in your organisation, both at an individual or team level
  • Straight Talking: …Straight Talking create change through conversations
  • Special projects, secondments and assignments

1 way to identify a narcissist – ask them!

“If you suspect someone in your life is a narcissist, there may be an incredibly straightforward way to confirm your suspicions: Just ask them” says Melissa Dahl: The Narcissist Test. Dahl makes this claim based on a new book: The Narcissist Test: How to spot outsized egos … and the surprising things we can learn from them by Craig Malkin (2015, Harper Collins).

For a quick summary about recognising a narcissist, please have a look at the blog I published a couple of years ago:

A narcissist can charm the birds – and recruiters – out of the trees, so don't interview alone

A narcissist can charm the birds, be a charming devil, and be destructive and unpleasant to work with

Charming the birds off the trees

Charming the birds off the trees, or a charming devil?

‘I start off as a witch, and then get a bit nicer – sometimes’

When does confidence, easy charm and the ability to persuade people to your way of thinking move towards a darker, unhealthy part of personality. More often than you may think, since research in the USA indicates that executive failure owing to personality traits costs $3m annually. Given the relative seniority of such people, these costs may be the tip of the iceberg.

Often people who are charming are successful in organisations. However, organisations are often inept at noticing those with a darkside to charm: narcissism.

Narcissists are unpleasant and destructive to work with, or for. They are self absorbed, have vaulting ambition with inflated and at times, unrealistic opinions about themselves, particularly in relation to others. Examples I have heard are “I can make a profit anywhere”, “I start off as a witch, and then get a bit nicer, sometimes”, “I have made a mistake accepting this new job, it is not big enough for me”. Even just three statements show their sense of entitlement and exemption from standards and norms. In gaining entitlement they can be vicious, deliberately sabotage careers of others, and are good at managing their managers. Significantly, they feel no remorse. Equally, they can be charismatic, dramatic and exciting.

So, if your recruitment and performance management systems can’t tell the difference between someone who can healthily ‘charm the birds off the trees’ and someone who is an unhealthy ‘charming devil’ take heed! It’s simply not true that devilish individuals won’t rise to important positions. There is evidence that some well known and initially respected business leaders, sports people, politicians and religious leaders have narcissist personality traits.

Reach us at 07779 345 499, m.raymond@mwrconsulting.co.uk

T: 07779 345 499

Marjorie Raymond

Marjorie Raymond

E: m.raymond@mwrconsulting.co.uk

We have experience in developing senior managers and their team members – both on an individual and team level – so they can develop practical approaches that encourage positive, constructive behaviour. This, in turn, leads to the development of positive beliefs and values. We are ready work with you, to help you get the best out of your people.

Here are some examples of approaches that can be used and tailored to your individual needs:

  • Certified ACT practioner
  • Support if you are being bullied, or have a member of your organisation who has made a bullying complaint
  • Certified Mediation practioner, to address workplace conflict,
  • Personal development activities
  • Individual and group coaching…Coaching – a powerful way of developing people
  • Psychometric assessment, which can identify strengths as well as derailing behaviours and also include 360 degree feedback
  • Structured module for understanding the psychological contracts in your organisation, both at an individual or team level
  • Straight Talking: …Straight Talking create change through conversations
  • Special projects, secondments and assignments

Why did people tell pollsters one answer yet vote differently on May 7th?

Did you vote?

Did you change how you would vote when you marked the paper?

We just don’t notice that what we say and what we do often conflict.

Our innermost thoughts are something we tend to regard as correct, true, and trustworthy. Importantly these thoughts guide what we will do – or we think that they do.

Polling predictions did not reflect the 2015 election result. Did your voting 2015 election decision throw your certainties into doubt when you marked the voting paper?

Moments sometimes happen when we notice that our inner thoughts and plans are not what we actually do. We surprise ourselves.

Usually however, we just don’t notice that what we say and what we do often conflict. This means that we don’t really know what affects our decisions and behaviour.

Nobel Prize winning research from Daniel Khaneman has shown that the kinds of things we take in into account when we make decisions are often not things we say are involved. So, when asked how we will vote we can say one thing to a pollster and then vote differently on the day itself.

As the pollsters go and lick their wounds it is worth remembering that they already knew that ‘what we say’ and ‘what we do’ can be very different…

Reach us at 07779 345 499, m.raymond@mwrconsulting.co.uk

Marjorie Raymond

Marjorie Raymond

T: 07779 345 499

E: m.raymond@mwrconsulting.co.uk

We have experience in developing senior managers and their team members – both on an individual and team level – so they can develop practical approaches that encourage positive, constructive behaviour. This, in turn, leads to the development of positive beliefs and values. We are ready work with you, to help you get the best out of your people.

Here are some examples of approaches that can be used and tailored to your individual needs:

  • Certified ACT practioner
  • Support if you are being bullied, or have a member of your organisation who has made a bullying complaint
  • Certified Mediation practioner, to address workplace conflict,
  • Personal development activities
  • Individual and group coaching…Coaching – a powerful way of developing people
  • Psychometric assessment, which can identify strengths as well as derailing behaviours and also include 360 degree feedback
  • Structured module for understanding the psychological contracts in your organisation, both at an individual or team level
  • Straight Talking: …Straight Talking create change through conversations
  • Special projects, secondments and assignments

10 Good Habits to Generate Dialogue and Save Time

Good dialogue saves time. Make sure you do it well

Good dialogue saves time. Make sure you do it well

Communication is a major task for everyone at work.Therefore, doing it well matters.

 

Communicate in a way that uses time wisely. Here are 10 top tips for doing just that:

 

 

  1. Focus on the person you are talking to
  2. Maintain eye contact, listen to them
  3. React positively, and professionally, if news is bad. Bad news is valuable – don’t behave in a way that will ensure you are the last person it hear it
  4. Contribute to a positive and creative team environment where you are trusted you to listen appreciatively to one another’s ideas
  5. Provide time for people  who speaks slowly, or is perhaps a reflective thinker
  6. Help others stay on topic by gently bringing them back to it
  7. Pay attention to key thoughts, build on them
  8. Jot down important points and facts, especially dates, figures and names
  9. If you need to take action based on a conversation takes notes
  10. Try to listen to the person you are conversing without planning what you will say next.

Reach us at 07779 345 499, m.raymond@mwrconsulting.co.uk

Marjorie Raymond

Marjorie Raymond

T: 07779 345 499

E: m.raymond@mwrconsulting.co.uk

We have experience in developing senior managers and their team members – both on an individual and team level – so they can develop practical approaches that encourage positive, constructive behaviour. This, in turn, leads to the development of positive beliefs and values. We are ready work with you, to help you get the best out of your people.

Here are some examples of approaches that can be used and tailored to your individual needs:

  • Special projects, secondments and assignments
  • Mediation, to address workplace conflict
  • Personal development activities
  • Individual and group coaching…Coaching – a powerful way of developing people
  • Psychometric assessment, which can identify strengths as well as derailing behaviours and also include 360 degree feedback
  • Structured module for understanding the psychological contracts in your organisation, both at an individual or team level
  • Straight Talking: …Straight Talking create change through conversations

Can you rebuild trust?

You can regain team confidence ...

You can regain team confidence …

Certainly you can. However, it won’t be easy…..

In fact, it remains the case, of course that is best not to break trust in the first place. However, if you have concerns this article from @Harvard may help you:  http://ow.ly/viNYI

 

Reach us at 07779 345 499, m.raymond@mwrconsulting.co.uk

 

Marjorie Raymond

Marjorie Raymond

T: 07779 345 499

E: m.raymond@mwrconsulting.co.uk

We have experience in developing senior managers and their team members – both on an individual and team level – so they can develop practical approaches that encourage positive, constructive behaviour. This, in turn, leads to the development of positive beliefs and values. We are ready work with you, to help you get the best out of your people.

Here are some examples of approaches that can be used and tailored to your individual needs:

  • Special projects, secondments and assignments
  • Mediation, to address workplace conflict
  • Personal development activities
  • Individual and group coaching…Coaching – a powerful way of developing people
  • Psychometric assessment, which can identify strengths as well as derailing behaviours and also include 360 degree feedback
  • Structured module for understanding the psychological contracts in your organisation, both at an individual or team level
  • Straight Talking: …Straight Talking create change through conversations